How to Make the Best out of Chaos
Chaos has always being a part of history, but I believe since Covid-19 the world has
experienced a different level of chaos, a global one! Chaos is so common that there is
even a theory developed by mathematicians, physicists and meteorologists (1854)
called “The Chaos Theory”. At first it may sound intimidating specially if you are not
familiar and feel comfortable with the “world of numbers”, but as you go deeper into the
message of The Chaos Theory, it is easy to see valuable life lessons, where are some:
1. Life is dynamic and circular, not linear
Often times we have the impression that life follows this linear pattern, we are born,
grow up, go to school, get married, have kids...
In reality life is much more complicated and it feels more like a roller coster than a
perfect and peaceful walk in the park.
2. Chaos as an opportunity versus a tragedy
The primary goal of this theory is adaptation rather than simply adjustment (dealing with
or getting through). Adaptation suggests that the system itself has forever changed. The
person has the ability to modify both self and the environment, open to the possibility
that even if decisions may not have predictable outcomes, new or unique outcomes
may be even more desirable, that what had been anticipated. HOPE!
3. Chaos can be the needed “push” for growth
Think of a muscle in your body that has not been work for a while! I remember when I
have started to work as a server (years ago) my biceps and triceps got very soar, but
after a couple of months it got strong and I could carry multiple plates with just one arm.
Chaotic situations in life have the ability to “grow muscles” that we don’t even know are
there, I like to call them “the internal muscles”.
What happens when chaos happens?!?!?!
In every situation in life a person can choose to become better or bitter, chaotic
situations are no different. When chaos come we can (a)know it is a normal part of life
and that more people than we think (or Facebook shows) are going through something
similar, (b)your chaos may be a forceful opportunity for you to grow, remembering that
growth hurts, just as when we are trying to grow some muscles or when a baby tooth is
growing and (c)you can choose to face life transitions with feelings of wonder and
curiosity rather than dread, you can learn how to embrace uncertainty and use
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