Visit http://TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. To understand what makes marriages work, we need to talk about why they sometimes end, says family law professor Jeannie Suk Gersen. Follow along as she lays out three ways that thinking about marital decisions through the lens of divorce can help you better navigate togetherness from the beginning. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), submit a Media Request here: http://media-requests.TED.com Follow TED on Twitter: http://twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: http://facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://youtube.com/TED

Dr. Caroline Leaf describes her "Science of Thought" process and how she developed tools and processes that help people develop and change their thinking and subsequent behavior. Dr. Caroline Leaf studies the mind-brain connection and she is a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology specializing in Neuropsychology. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

NOTE FROM TED: Do not look to this for mental health advice. Some viewers may find this talk to be objectionable. This talk only represents the speaker's personal views and understanding of trauma, biology, and the brain. Several claims lack legitimate scientific support. We've flagged this talk because it falls outside the content guidelines TED gives TEDx organizers. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: http://storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/tedx_content_guidelines.pdf In his work with trauma patients, Dr. Rigg has observed how the brain is constantly reacting to sensory information, generating non-thinking reactions before our intelligent individual human brains are able to process the event and formulate a self-driven response. John is a professional musician, who became a physician in his 40s. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

http://www.ted.com Why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it? To learn more about our very real, very physical need for romantic love, Helen Fisher and her research team took MRIs of people in love -- and people who had just been dumped.

Visit http://TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more. Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. Follow TED on Twitter: http://twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: http://facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://youtube.com/TED TED's videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (https://www.ted.com/about/our-organization/our-policies-terms/ted-talks-usage-policy). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at https://media-requests.ted.com

Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer. An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on. TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector

Here’s the science behind happy relationships! Dr. Gottman outlines the findings, tools and techniques that have helped thousands of couples from around the world build a “Sound Relationship House.” Visit for more info: https://info.gottman.com/relationships-and-conflict?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=yt_traffic_nonGRA&utm_term=couples&utm_content=lecture Follow Us! Blog: https://gottman.com/blog Facebook: https://facebook.com/gottmaninstitute Instagram: https://instagram.com/gottmaninstitute Twitter: https://twitter.com/gottmaninst Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/gottmaninst YouTube: https://youtube.com/thegottmaninstitute

The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments. This video shows you how. As relationship researcher Logan Ury explains, you can choose to TURN TOWARDS your partner in these moments and accept their bids to connect, or TURN AWAY and ignore their bids. Every time you choose to turn towards, you make a deposit in your Emotional Bank Account. Notice when your partner makes a bid. Show interest, ask questions, nod, listen, and put away your screens. Visit for more info: https://info.gottman.com/relationships-and-conflict?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=yt_traffic_nonGRA&utm_term=couples&utm_content=animated Follow Us! Blog: https://www.gottman.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gottmaninstitute Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/gottmaninst Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/gottmaninst YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/thegottmaninstitute

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